Sunday, September 16, 2007

In Loving Memory

Today marks the 3rd anniversary of the demise of my beloved cousin, Daniel.

Daniel passed away 4 months after his 22nd birthday, 6 months after he was diagnosed with last-stage stomach cancer.

He was the only son of my mother’s brother. My mother looked after him from birth until he was 4 years old. It was during that time my bond with him was established – he practically grew up before my eyes. My parents, especially my father, loved him like a son … they still do.

On the 16th of every month, my father will unfailingly bring flowers to Daniel’s grave. This is one of the ways he deals with the grief that still grips our hearts.

I know without a doubt Daniel is at a better place now. I’m glad that he is suffering no more.

Some nights, when the stars are twinkling like diamonds, I look up and wonder where is he now. I hope he knows we think of him every single day. That we love him.


Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. If it is not too personal, may I ask what made your cousin think he had this cancer or how he became aware of his illness? I have a form of acid reflux and am 22. I am always worried about this. Again I am sorry.


Jace said...

Hi, Sarah … welcome. :)

No, it’s never too personal for me to share Daniel’s experience, which I hope will help you in some way.

The symptoms started about 1+ years before the cancer diagnosis. Daniel had trouble swallowing his food … he said it felt like there was gas in his stomach that prevented the food from going down. This problem got progressively worse as time went on. He consulted doctors (general practitioners) who told him it was gastric problem.

About 8 months before he died, he had severe diarrhoea for over a week. That was when he consulted a gastroenteritis specialist. It took the specialist 2 months to diagnose the cancer due to its uncommon location (outside the intestines). By that time, it was too late to do anything about the cancer. Daniel was one of the few youngest patients to die from this type of cancer.

Sarah, since you’re worried about your condition, have you spoken to your doctor about it? Or perhaps you could consult a specialist, just to set your mind at ease?

Be alert to any changes in your digestive pattern and bowel movements. If you are uneasy about either, PLEASE don’t hesitate to see your doctor. I hate to alarm you, but I can never stress enough the need to seek early medical attention when you feel there’s something not quite right with your body.

Take care and keep healthy.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Jace for sharing and I am going to consult a gastric specialist in a few weeks. I have dealt with my problem for over two years now. Daniel's beginning symptoms seems closely related to mine. I will ask my doctor about the possibility of having this cancer as well. It is a shame that he couldn't be helped sooner. Just too young.

On a side note, I greatly enjoy your blog, and hope you do not mind that I am going share it with all the girls of Karen Moning's official forum (here’s the link If you are not currently a member, I know all the girls, and I included, would love to have you join the family. Come by and say hi. I am ILUVNURDS on the board. Thank you again and take care as well.


Jace said...

Sarah, you're most welcome.

I'm glad that you're keeping a vigilant eye on your problem. Your gastric specialist should be able to provide you with further information regarding your problem, as well as advice on any necessary treatments. I wish you good luck, and if you need to talk about your problem, you can email me (email address in my profile).

It's nice to know that you're enjoying my blog. :) You are, of course, welcome to invite your pals to visit here any time.

No, I'm not a member of the Karen Moning forum, and I haven't visited it before, either. Thanks for the link! I'll be sure to pay a visit soon. :)